Dear Ms. Handler,
Imagine, finding your own father’s obituary on a google search 2 ½ years after he died. Or maybe, think if it was one of your son’s obituary… Really and truly think and feel it.
I’ll make this simple and direct. Please explain… explain it all to me. I do know you are aware of exactly what this question means and the depth of it as well.
If you choose to ignore this one basic fundamental question, know I am my father’s daughter. His intellect was indeed inherited by his one and only child. I do have a great deal of intelligence but also am endowed with deep compassion and a defined knowledge of what is right and wrong. I emotionally and logically need an answer and will do all that I can to produce one.
I do exist and have for 54 years...literally an entire lifetime before Janice Handler. No amount of self denial will change this fact. My father chose to ignore the actual facts of his life and choices – he was married, created a child and close relationships he, himself consciously and deliberately nurtured, tended and participated in. Until, abruptly after 21 years he chose to start over an untruthful life.
No amount of time, denial or deletion can change the absolute fact that I am his daughter and that I am here in this world because he made me. Gerald Delaplane Barker does have a daughter and she is alive. He has grandsons that are in this world. We all do exist – Just saying, thinking and perpetuating the lie that we do not doesn’t make his fabrication true.
This one thing, this one HUGE devastating lie makes everything in his life – even his relationship with you and your sons – less than noteworthy. A life of lies is a life not really lived in any way – a life that leaves nothing behind. A life that made no difference in any way.
So, please honor me with the respect I deserve – explain to me the “why” of all of it. Make my father’s life at least noteworthy to my own.
Sincerely and Respectfully,
Lori Barker King
701 W Swann Ave
Tampa, Florida 33606
Lori Barker Iing
May 22, 2020
Jan, I am so very sorry about the loss of your husband. I have been thinking about your family and praying for you all.
Shea Francis
August 17, 2017
Jan, I am speechless. I am truly sorry. I am thinking about you and sending you all good thoughts.
Belkis Suarez
August 16, 2017
My condolences to you for such a great loss. Jerry was such a great guy.
Michael Markovitz
August 15, 2017
Jan, I am very sorry to hear about Jerry. I enjoyed working with him before and during his time at CIPCO. He was missed when he left CIPCO and now he'll be missed by all. I would have liked to have seen him again since his retiring and shared a beer (or two)....sometimes life is too short.
Russ Steven
August 15, 2017
Sorry, to hear of Jerry's passing. I worked with him at CIPCO for many years...he was good to work with. My prayers are with your family.
Lynn Martin
August 15, 2017
Sorry, to hear of Jerry's passing. I worked with him at CIPCO for many years...he was good to work with. My prayers are with your family.
Lynn Martin
August 15, 2017
Dear Jan and family,
Sue Gates let us know about your sudden loss. Our hearts and prayers are with you all, in hopes that by standing silently with you, we bring you strength. May peace come through happy memories.
Kathy and Frank Van Steenhuyse
Kathy and Frank Van Steenhuyse
August 14, 2017
Jan - I am very sorry to hear about your husband's sudden death. My thoughts are with you and your family as you work through this difficult time. John Rogers
John Rogers
August 14, 2017
Jan, my deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Anne Heim
August 14, 2017
Jan you and the boys are in our thoughts and prayers. It was a pleasure to know and work with Jerry, He will be missed but remembered by many.
Jim Albertson
August 13, 2017
My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Julie K Shaw
August 12, 2017
Jan and sons
I was very sorry to learn of Jerry's passing. I greatly enjoyed
the time of his reports to our board of directors and
appreciated his employment to Cipco. May God help
to ease your pain.
Dale Walkup
August 11, 2017
Jan - I am so sad to hear of the passing of your husband. I will hold you and your sons in prayer.
Kellee Thorburn McCrory
August 11, 2017
I am so very sorry for your loss Jan. Please know my thought and prayers are with you and your family. Heartbroken for you - Terri
Terri Crumley
August 11, 2017
Jan and family, No words can adequately express how sorry I am for your loss. Hold tight to the good memories.
Marcie Van note
August 11, 2017
Jan and family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time. May memories console you and your loved ones.
Dawn Behan
August 11, 2017
My condolences to you for such a great loss. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Richard Barrett
August 11, 2017
Jan, you have our thoughts and our love. Whatever you need, please call us. We are here for you.
Linda and Russ Keast
August 11, 2017
Jan, you and your family are in the thoughts and prayers of so many of us. I am so sorry for your loss.
Cheryl Redd
August 11, 2017
You and your family are in my thoughts, Jan. Words fail in situations like this one. My heart hurts for all of you.
Allison McNeese
August 11, 2017
Jan and family, I am so sorry for your loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Candace Chihak
August 11, 2017
Jan and Family, we are so sorry for your loss. You will be in our thoughts and prayers. Peace be with you.
Kristopher Keuseman
August 11, 2017
You have my deepest sympathy Jan and Family. God Bless you all.
Deb O'Hara
August 11, 2017
So sorry to hear of your loss, Jan. We are holding you and your family to the light.
Eden Wales Freedman
August 11, 2017
We are thinking of you and your family. Please let us know if you need anything. We wish you comfort and peace during this difficult time.
Tiffany Leschke & Amanda Ehlers
August 11, 2017
Jan,
My sincere condolences to you and your family. I am keeping you in my prayers at this difficult time. God bless.
Carol Heim
August 11, 2017
Jan and Family, So sorry to hear of your loss. Let the wonderful memories cherished by family and friends guide you through the toughest days. Prayers to you and your family.
Janet Evans
August 11, 2017
Jan, Heartfelt condolences to you and your family. We are holding you in prayer.
Joy Ochs
August 11, 2017
Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family; may you be surrounded by love and friendship.
Will Oprisko
August 11, 2017
Jan, we are keeping you and your family in our prayers. May Jerry rest in the peace of the Lord.
Peace,
Fr. Tony
Fr. Tony Adawu
August 11, 2017
Our hearts and prayers are with you and your family; may you be surrounded by love and friendship.
Will Oprisko
August 11, 2017